Thursday, December 9, 2010

By perspective

For no reason in particular, I've had a few conversations with women I went to high school with, and still am friends with. The topic of popularity came up each time. I find it really hard to define popularity in our school, as it was a Catholic, all girls school. So, not the norm, I think. Interestingly enough, I had not one, not two, but four different thoughts on who the popular girls were. My hairdresser went so far as to point to herself and say "We were". I gave her a blank stare. "Well, we were the athletes." Um, no - athletes did not equal popular at a smallish all girls school. I had to tell her no, they weren't. Also, that no one I had talked to about it had named her group as the popular ones. There was one group that was mentioned that back in high school I might have deemed popular simply based on a few criteria - they were cool, they were beautiful, they were fashion forward, and they had the hottest boyfriend. But in hind-sight, they weren't actually popular. I think the best answer I got was the simplest. Chris looked at me, paused, and said "Well, we were. You and I." I was about to correct her, but then I paused. We then discussed that even though she was all skater girl, and I was all black converse high tops and new wave music, and we were in plays and no we didn't play sports, and yes we got into trouble - lots and lots and lots of trouble we got along with just about everyone. The one thing that made Chris' statement true is that we knew and were friends with everyone. I mean everyone. And if I didn't like someone, Chris might and vice versa. So that being said, we really did know EVERYONE in our class. And the classes above and below us. The main point is who cares? Who cares now? Does this affect any of us in any way shape or form? Does the fact that I field and deny many friend requests on teh fb on a regular basis make me any more of a person? Probably because I don't care now, and I never cared then is why I was popular. I have no idea why I even wrote about this - it was just on my mind. Sorry for the rant.

5 comments:

Shannon Erin said...

Yeah, going to an all girls Catholic high school myself, there wasn't really a "popular" crowd. There were the athletes, theater group, band/choir/music group, goth group...

I mean, there were 500 girls. Picking the most popular would be almost impossible. I think a theater girl won prom queen, if I remember correctly. Wevs.

I also don't remember much bullying/mean girl stuff happening. Though maybe I was oblivious, because people I know who went there, albeit in other grades/years, say otherwise.

Von said...

See? Same thing. Except....at my school there was some bullying. I know because I sometimes, sometimes, was teh bully.
Bitches had it coming.

mikey said...

When they read my name at graduation the assembled multitudes collectively said "Who?" Honest, you could hear it above the buzz of the cicadas.

All I ever wanted to do was ride my motorcycle to the beach, surf, drink beer and have sex with whoever was at the beach at the time.

A FEW of my peers were part of that, but we cut school so much to go riding/surfing that the rest of the school didn't know I was there. The teachers loved me because I read all the time, and learning has always come easy to me, so I'd get by with passing grades while doing minimal work.

Then I'd ride to the beach, score a sixpack and check out the waves. Popular? Never. Contented? For just about the only moment in this foul existence...

Kathleen said...

soemtimes its good to think about the past even if we feel like we've moved on, just so we're reminded of what got us where we are now.

Von said...

K-Unit so so so true.