Monday, May 12, 2008

Sorry, but I'm pissed

I'm not going to give the weekend in review today. I'm kinda pissed off about something that seems to be a recurring theme in my life of late. Friends - stop treating me like shit. If you're too busy to answer the phone, then don't answer the phone. If your life sucks, don't treat me like it's some how my fault. I'd like to think that you treat all of your friends equally, but you don't. You have different rules for different people, and I'm sick of it. A lot of people that don't know me very well think I'm a bitch. That's true. I can be. I'm outspoken, honest, and self-confident. A lot of people that don't know me tend to be a little be afraid of me. This is all ok with me. The problem lies with my friends, those that do know me. These people have the ability to hurt my feeling more than other people. Lately, it seems they do - time and time again. A recent example is someone that I've been trying to become better friends with lately. She's awesome, and I look up to her. The other day she went off on my for something that should not have been a big deal. Don't fucking yell at me, when the person who is truly wrong, who really screwed up, is standing right next to you. I've been mad for a few days about this incident. I'm conflicted, because I'm not sure what I'm going to do about this one. Up until the incident, I feel that we had been making good progress to actually becoming friends. Now, I don't know what I want to do about it. She's someone I see on a regular basis at one of my things, so avoiding her is not an option. I'm waiting for her to blog about what a bitch I was, but it hasn't happened yet. I'll have to see how this plays out. I'm going to push it out of my mind (or try to) until Friday, when I have to see her again. I think I'll let her take the lead on this. If she is still a bitch, then game over. I have enough friends, I don't need another one treating me badly. If she's nice to me, I'll just let it go. Like I said - she's cool, and someone I thought would make a good friend. I don't want to get more specific, as some of my friends read this blog, and I'm not in the game of hurting feelings. I know that I told Shannon I would never be in the practice of blogging about people without naming them. I am taking exception here to not hurt feelings, or have a fight/discussion on the internet. I'll just say this - If you are reading this, and you think 'Maybe she's talking about me, and I've been kinda a shit friend lately.' then you're right, I probably am. Just know, friends, that I have feelings. I have a life. My life, my topics of conversation, my problems should be as important as yours. Yes, I have strong opinions, but sometimes, I'm right. I don't always understand what you do, and why. Don't say things you don't mean. **FYI - I just wrote this to vent. I feel better now. I do NOT want to discuss these issues further. If you think you might have been a shitty friend to me recently, then just fix it, and let's move forward.

25 comments:

Sally said...

Von! I think you are great and I am sorry if things have been awry as of late.

The best advice I can give is if you cannot forgive your friends, who can you forgive?! Don't be AG's gentile side that goes to war for 40 years and never lets up. It's not worth the angst and the internal conflict.

Nobody is perfect. The next time someone hurts you, wait to cool off and gently let them know. That's the only way things can work.

Chelsea and AG will never mistreat you. I promise!

Adorable Girlfriend said...

Who the hell is Sally?!!!

Von said...

AG - I have no idea, but she does have a point. Plus, she's promised you will never mistreat me!!
Sally - Thanks! Good advice on a sucky Monday morning!

billy pilgrim said...

"WHO THE HELL IS SALLY?!?" is SO going to become another catch phrase. Look for it soon on a blog near you.

Von - I use my blog every week, nearly every day, for venting. Blogger is cheaper than Therapy.

Venting and cooling are necessary for any engine.

Von said...

BP - Thanks. I felt kinda evil writing it, but I really do feel better now. Gawd - engine talk! I was in automotive heating/cooling for 10 years. I know more about cars than I should.

Sally said...

Sally is AG but I have no idea how?

BP, that is teh awesome! AG wants full credit.

billy pilgrim said...

No Way. NY Law Firm has already established the copyright and trademarks under "Johnny S. Pilgrim-Rotten, Esquire, all successors, assigns, and/or chili dogs".

LEGAL!!!

Von said...

HuH? Now I have a headache. I think whenever I get confused (blog-wise or other-wise) I'm just going to say "Who the hell is Sally?" it's rather cathartic. Yes, AG - dear - full credit to you.

Von said...

Geesh - BP and I were simultaniously commenting. Fine, BP - 1/2 credit to you, 1/2 to my AG. But I'm still using it!

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Sally said...

No way, Rotten! AG made the Sally comment and therefore copyrighted. So, back up the hot dog wagon.

Shannon Erin said...

Who the hell is Sally, and why is it so hot in here?!

billy pilgrim said...

WHO THE HELL IS SALLY!?!?

It isn't this hot in To-Ron-To!!!

Brando is a National Treasure, except with less Nicolas Cage.

Adorable Girlfriend said...

Sally is some bitch who slept with me, but not Billy P. He's jealous.

Oh. Did I just type that?!

Adorable Girlfriend said...

OMG. Von, get over to Chuckles. UC totally came in his usual stupor of not knowing and asked about Sally. I heart it.

Best.
Comment.
Evah.

Adorable Girlfriend said...

What is that aboot?!!

Brando said...

Sally is some bitch who slept with me, but not Billy P. He's jealous.

Who wouldn't be?

You kids also flatter me.

Von, that really sucks about your friend, I hope you can get things patched up.

Von said...

AG - what is what aboot? Or were you addressing someone else?
Brando - Welcome! I am seriously addicted to your blog, it's my new crack. Thanks for the comment. It's been a better week than last as far as friends go.

Adorable Girlfriend said...

Aboot that's how they say "about" in Canadia. That would be where the UC hails from.

Gawd, his really needs to get to know the Von. The proper folks will be notified!

The only other hint, if you have not guessed, is that some might call him the ying to an AG yang...

Hell said...

I fell in love with you the moment I met you.

Just Sayin'

Von said...

AG - Thanks for clearing that up. Yes, UC and I need to become better aquainted.
Hell - Ditto. I love that you eat condiments. :)

billy pilgrim said...

Von-

Missus pilgrim worked for Delco before the Delphi thing, in the engine control division. Constantly working with heat control and dissipation for the controllers....

Fortunately, she got out.

Von said...

BP - LOved me some AC Delco back in the day. Loved that they would send WDs (I worked for a BIG WD) extra parts to see if they were honest and return them. We always did. Delphi was big on quality. Name brand that can't be beat. Argh!! Car talk!! I swore I wouldn't revisit it! I worked in purchasing for the WD, was a buyer for 7 years. I am blissful now. My career is nowhere near car parts. Happy sigh. Glad Mrs. BP is also free of the automotive world!

billy pilgrim said...

Interestingly enough, Von, one of our bigger social services corporation clients sent me a check Friday for an invoice they'd already paid. Wonder if they're doing the same thing?

anyway, called and left a message asking whether I should send it back or rip it up. Haven't heard back yet.

Von said...

BP - You did the right thing! It just might have been a test.